I had a long conversation yesterday with a friend about a guy she just met who asked her out this weekend for Valentine’s Day.To some, this might sound like the dream scenario, but she felt like it was way too much way too soon; she was trying to pump those brakes hard. Because unfortunately—and especially in the beginning of a relationship—we’re rarely on the same page.When I met them, they were going on 20 years of marriage and still madly in love. At 30 years old, I was beginning to wonder if I'd ever get married, when I met a handsome barista intent on a future as a children's pastor.We started leading a small group together for other single young adults, and a month later we were dating.I remember hearing a story in college that blew my mind.At 34, my English professor had met and become engaged to her husband, a widower with two young children — in the course of three weeks!She seemed very much as "into" the relationship as I was - sending loving texts and buying me gifts.
"I think if there had been more time, I might have recognized the volatile nature of his control over me.
Things seemed to be going great right up until she dumped me.
We were making plans together for the future - trips we were going to take, dates we were going to go on.
Signs you need to take it slow in love and slam on the brakes Think you might be going too fast?
Use these signs to determine whether your relationship is in need of a chill pill. Are you putting your partner up on a pedestal, when you barely know anything about them? Maybe you need to get to know a little more about them before you decide they should be seated at the right hand of God! It’s a scary moment in any relationship, but if you or they are meeting the parents only weeks into the relationship, then something is assuredly amiss.